I’m Not as Good as Other People

Kai’s Story

Kai’s Journey to Overcoming Self-Comparison

Life was tough for Kai during his secondary school days.

He often felt like he wasn’t measuring up to others in terms of intelligence, sports, and musical ability. These feelings even led him to have thoughts about not wanting to be around anymore.

Dealing with Dark Thoughts

Kai struggled with self-doubt and even had thoughts of suicide. He felt inadequate compared with his peers and thought he wasn’t good enough in various aspects of life.

Finding Ways to Cope

To turn things around, Kai knew he had to find a way to live with these feelings. Over time, he started feeling better and thinking about those dark thoughts less often.

Self-Acceptance

Kai realised that while he might not be the best at everything, he’s good at something. He learned to accept that he’s not perfect, just like nobody else is. This acceptance helped him improve his self-esteem.

Opening Up

Kai found that talking to trusted friends or family members about his feelings was really helpful. They provided support and understanding, reminding him that he’s not alone in his struggles.

Pursuing Passions

Kai also found solace in doing things he enjoyed, like playing football. Even if he wasn’t the best, he found joy in the activity, helping him focus on his strengths rather than weaknesses.

Writing It Out

Another method Kai used was writing. He kept a diary where he jotted down his thoughts and feelings. This helped him organise his thoughts, understand himself better, and work through his emotions.

Advice for Others

Kai’s advice to anyone going through similar struggles is to spend time reflecting on yourself and being honest about your strengths and weaknesses. Reach out to trusted people for conversation and try activities you enjoy. If you’re not comfortable sharing with others, writing down your thoughts can be a great way to understand yourself.

Kai’s journey teaches us that we all have our strengths and weaknesses. It’s essential to recognise and accept them while seeking support and engaging in activities that bring us joy. Overcoming self-comparison is a gradual process, but with self- acceptance and support, it’s possible to find a healthier perspective on our abilities and worth.